K. A. Cook is an abrosexual, aromantic, agender autistic who experiences chronic pain and mental illness. Ze writes creative non-fiction, personal essays and fiction about the above on the philosophy that if the universe is going to make life interesting, ze may as well make interesting art.
Ze is the author of many short fantasy stories combining ridiculous magic, cats, dogs, disability, bacon, mental illness, stim toys, cross stitch, coeliac disease, verbose eldritch entities and as many transgender and aromantic autistics as any one story can hold.
Pronouns: ze/hir/hirs (strongly preferred) or they/them/theirs (spoken usage only).
@alloaroworlds: An archive/community blog collecting only allo-aro-specific posts and content. I also post intra-community discussion pieces about allo-aro experiences, erasure and antagonism.
@aroflagarchive: An irregularly-updating blog archiving aromantic-spectrum identity and variant flag proposal posts. It’s difficult to find these posts for credit or reference when they’re lost amidst reblogs on Tumblr, so this blog collects flags and only flags.
Ko-fi: a place where you can help me keep creating by buying me digital beverages!
Aro Arrows: an aromantic spectrum stock image library and flag archive. A collection of flags, banners, dividers and frames, covering as many aromantic identities as is possible for one person to make.
I am nebularomantic, arovague and idemromantic, as autism significantly shapes and impacts my aromanticism. My abrosexuality includes shifts in the genders to who I am attracted and shifts in the intensity of said attraction, but I am always multisexual and will sometimes identify as these identities alone.
(I don’t see a difference between autistic-accommodating romantic and platonic relationships/attraction, hence the nebularomanticism. My neurodiversity is inseparable from my sense of aromanticism, hence arovague. I do categorise certain relationship behaviours and expressions of attraction as romantic based on their neuronormativity, hence the idemromanticism.)
I am an allo-aro writer, blogger and community member. I am not aro-ace and do not identify as part of the asexual community.
I am not sex or romance repulsed, although I am often alienated by the omnipresence of (neuronormative) romance narratives. I am also alienated by the expectation that romance repulsion or negativity is a default aromantic experience and the assumption that all aros love in non-romantic ways.
I do, proudly, refer to myself as loveless.
Butch/queer transmasculine shapes of expression and experience shape my lack of gender, but I reject the use of words historically associated with a binary gender identity to describe me or my gender identity. I also reject the use of words associating “agender” with “neutral gender” to describe me or my genderlessness.
I also attempt to navigate mental illnesses, chronic finger/wrist/shoulder pain, coeliac disease, dermatitis and migraines.
Because a good deal of information about me is already available on the internet, I don’t give out my age. I’m an adult and I’m older than 25.
If you’d like to know more about me, please see my artist profile.
I gather stim toys (favourites include squishy plush and Tangles), listen to European melodic metal (favourite bands are Dark Tranquillity, Eluveitie and Kamelot), play Magic: the Gathering and consume most things spec-fic (although I’m more fantasy-leaning than science fiction). Favourite mainstream authors include Tamora Pierce, N. K. Jemisin, Robin Hobb and Lois McMaster Bujold; favourite TV shows include Farscape, Dark Matter, Killjoys, the UK Being Human, Warehouse 13, Community and (although it isn’t spec fic) Mythbusters.
(Supernatural isn’t exactly a favourite, but I am a fan of allo-aro Dean Winchester. I also want to discuss Stargate: Atlantis‘s creation of another accidental allo-aro in John Sheppard.)
I scrapbook and collect fashion dolls and Sylvanian Families figurines, for which I like to sew and craft when my hands permit. (I’ve made handbags, dresses, miniature foods and other small accessory and clothing items.) I also embroider pride-themed flag patches, although I’m still afraid to use my grandmother’s vintage embroidery floss collection. I’m also working on a series of loosely-fantastic/fairy-tale styled clothing for Lori / American Girl Mini dolls, based on a few original characters.
I scribble notes on four whiteboards hanging all over my bedroom, own a notebook collection I can’t use and am possessed of the ability to organise the maximum amount of objects into the minimum amount of space. I like bright colours, the smell of lemongrass, rice, clothes without tags and puzzle erasers arranged in fancy glass jars.
I dislike society’s continual requirement for brevity, sausages, beige, artificial fragrances and most pop music.